In 2012 when I was in SHS 2, was the first time I met him during a program in our school. I remember it like it was yesterday, I remember he was walking on the corridor with his friends laughing and teasing with his guy friends. I was also with my friends, sitting on the lover’s bench under the tree. I spotted him because he had a unique way of laughing which I thought it was really cute. That got my attention, so I kept staring at him. After a moment he realized I was staring at him, he smiled at me and came over. We got acquainted, found out he had an amazing personality, so we exchanged numbers and started talking. We became friends and I got fond of him coz he was very funny and loving.
We talked for a while and our feelings got in the way, soon I got emotionally attached to him, but we weren’t able to meet due to school, I was still in boarding school and he was outta town working, he had a busy schedule. But we always got the chance to text or call each other when ever we can. At times we could talk for hours on phone till day break. What can I say? I really liked him. I fell in love with him each day.
Unfortunately, the feeling wasn’t mutual, one day I sent him a text and his reply was “stop texting me I have a girlfriend”, I almost had a heart attack reading that, we’ve been talking for months now, he hasn’t mention having a girlfriend to me before, so that can as a surprised, I was emotionally drained! I was like “wow!!”, I was hurt, I said to myself, “maybe this wasn’t meant to be”, I have nothing to lose. We’ve never kissed before or done anything intimate so I guess I no regrets moving on, I accepted it and just let go.
About a year later, we got in touch again and started talking. I fell in love with him again, it was as if we never stopped talking all those months back, I always felt alive talking to him. I rekindled my old burning undying loving flames for him. I didn’t know what was about him, but I really liked him and really wanted a serious relationship with him. So I gave him hints that would show I wanted us to get serious. He was smart, he read between the lines and made his move.
One lovely evening, during one of our long chats, he asked for us to get back together, he asked me to be his girlfriend, which I happily accepted. The first few weeks was fun, but it got awkward afterwards. I was still in school and he was still in town far from each other. Even though we tried arranging so that he could come visit me in school, we couldn’t meet during that time also. Anytime we planned on meeting something comes up.
We dated for a while and again he started giving me stories and attitude, apparently he thought I would betray him, he was afraid I might hurt him because of the kinda stuffs I post on facebook. I wont lie, I was a diva, a slay queen, a bosschick on facebook, I could drop my pic and boom! 100 likes in an hour, endless comments and compliments under the pic. I always had an audience anytime I went online on facebook. I think that spooked him, I figured he was worried or jealous of the attention I got online, but I told him not to worry ‘cause I only had eyes for him only and it was true, I only loved him despite all the attention I got.
I tried convincing him to stay with me and that I was never gonna hurt or betray him, but to no avail. The constant whining got to me and I had no choice than to let go again.
Two years later, 2015, we started talking again and this time I visited him twice at his place, but we were just friends. I snooped around and found some posts on his wall on facebook which seemed another girl was playing with his heart. I was concerned, so I asked him about it and he got angry and asked me not to call his line again. He blocked my number, blocked me on facebook, whatsapp, viber and any other social media. I couldn’t get in touch with him. I was so hurt, I cried for several days coz I was really into him this time around.
I had fallen so much in love with him that I couldn’t control my feelings. As difficult as this was, I decided to forget about him but it wasn’t like taking candy from a baby. But I tried.
In some months time which was already in 2016, I was scrolling down my contact list, I checked his contact on whatsapp and found out he had unblocked me, I checked facebook too same… I must say I felt relieved but I decided not to text him, I didn’t want to appear desperate or naive. In some days time, I saw his message on whatsapp, he was checking up on me. We had a lovely nice friendly chat.
We started talking again for sometime and he told me he regrets ever letting me go and that my current guy is lucky to have me..I told him I wasn’t dating, and he asked me to be his girlfriend again. I was so happy that I didn’t even ask him to give me sometime to think about it,.. I just told him I love him so much and am ready to give him another chance.
We started dating again and this time around it was very serious. I love him so much that I don’t even care about how much he has hurt me, all I care about is to be with him forever. Yes we still go through lots of trials, we have misunderstandings, we quarrel and fight most of the time. We even break up and make up always but we are so much in love with each other.
We’ve been through a lot, I’ve been through a lot with him but I never gave up on him and am never willing to do so coz am sure he’s the one I want to be with till the end.
Ladies never give up on the man you really want.. Fight for him and he might be yours forever.
story written by: Esaawa
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